Humm.. seems easy enough to understand? Or at least until you’ve spent the night in someone’s bed. Growing up and moving away from home comes with all kinds of new experiences. Nothing is as potent as freedom to have sex with whoever and whenever. No more sneaking a guy into your room while your parents are asleep or have a roll, literally in the hay with this weeks girlfriend. Having your own place or living in coed dorms has made sex so much easier. Or at least the act, not the emotion that goes with falling in love or lust with someone.
Ideally,when you first start having sex it should be with someone you love and feel safe with but that doesn’t always happen. Too many times, a few cocktails or a night of dirty dancing and a charming guy or girl could woo you home. The next morning you might wake with an elated emotion of loving this person or a complete dread or “what the hell did I do?” Lust and infatuation can be so intense that you tell yourself that it must be love.
You can’t wait to see this person again and getting through the day takes forever when you’re waiting to have sex with them. Time passes and you realize that although the sex is great, the conversation isn’t. Maybe she’s fabulous in bed but she doesn’t like to go snowboarding or hiking. The only way you imagine your new boy toy is naked but not having dinner in a nice restaurant. All of a sudden small things really begin to annoy you, chewing with her mouth full or he’s constantly interrupting conversations with friends to tell you about his new skateboard trick. Well maybe it’s been lust?
But there also is that guy you think about all the time in every situation even having dinner with your parents. Or the girl you want to take on vacation to the most sacred surfing spot in the world even though she doesn’t surf. Suddenly the things that you would always find annoying in past relationships you’re finding funny or cute in this person. Spending time with them is the most important event of the day. It doesn’t matter if she has her period and doesn’t feel well enough for sex or you have to take care of him and his broken leg. Well, maybe it’s turning into love?
Love and lust is what makes our hearts and souls tick and life interesting. We’re human and suppose to couple up. The process is wonderful and painful at the same. Be safe and be smart and remember what Buddha said,” You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”