I am so in love with Glee. No surprise, I just finished blogging about Broadway musicals. I do want to post a response to Jo’s article about sex before you are ready and it occurred to me that a recent Glee episode dealt with the issue better than I ever could.
“When you’re intimate with someone in that way, you gotta know that you’re exposing yourself. You’re never gonna be more vulnerable, and that scares the hell out of a lot of guys…With two guys you’ve got two people who think that sex is just sex. It’s gonna be easier to come by and once you start, you aren’t gonna want to stop. You gotta know that it means something. It’s doing something to you, to your heart, to your self-esteem, even though it feels like you’re just having fun…When you’re ready, I want you to be able to do everything. But when you’re ready, I want you to use it as a way to connect to another person. Don’t throw yourself around like you don’t matter, because you matter.”
Yes, the father/son conversation dealt with gay sex, but the sentiment is the same no matter who you choose to be with, “because you matter”
Jo is sure that her friends will disagree with her point of view. In some ways, perhaps, in others, not so much. I believe that sex is something you must be ready for. If you are young and sexually active, I hope it’s for all the right reasons. You care for the person you’re with, they care for you, You’ve been friends forever. It feels right, Not because everyone else is doing it, or because you feel pressured.
Having a baby at 15 is too hard to imagine and not at all romantic. A baby is a lot of work, a huge responsibility. If you are sexually active make sure you are protected. See your doctor or visit Planned Parenthood.
Enjoy your sexuality, experiment a bit, But wait, wait until you are ready for sex. It really is a big step.